The crisis of single Cameroonian women in UK

Nowadays, some Cameroonian women spend eternity searching for Mr. Perfect. Others put cultural considerations to influence their lives.

Most Cameroonian women in the city of Birmingham put themselves in the situation they are by virtue of their supercilious attitude. Most can’t even tell what they want in a man and in a relationship. They are confused and can’t decide whether they are Africans living in the West. They wish to be co-captains, coequals and at the same time quote Orphism or threaten you with the intervention of the Social Service or police if you tell them to behave like a wife. No Cameroonian man in his right mind will go near such a woman -- unless by mistake.

Cameroonian women are too engrossed with their trivial requirements that they wouldn’t recognize Mr Right even if he came along. Such women come to their senses when it is too late and complain. Every Cameroonian man would rather marry a Cameroonian woman. The same applies perhaps to nearly all-African men with the same code of ethics. Sadly, some Cameroonian women want men with exotic cars, Armani suits, Gucci watches, Italian-snake shoes and a cellar full of French wines.

They want a ready-made man -- never a struggling man with potential who is decent, loving, and morally and ethically upright. The educated Cameroonian women -- mostly the PhD holders, the lawyers, and medical doctors, Social Workers, Masters etc are the snootiest. They mourn about Cameroonian men going after White and other non-African ladies. The sad truth is that, more often than not, the non-Africans are ready to “work with you.

Their demands have, in some cases, driven feeble-hearted Cameroonian men to commit the unthinkable. Today, especially in Birmingham, we have a segment of Cameroonian men selling their soul just to meet the demands of these unscrupulous and greedy women.

The Cameroonian men too have their own share of the blame. Some are devilish, conning, liars and cheats who will take women for a joyous ride and, if need be, take them to the cleaners in a heartbeat. Some of these men would commit illegalities even without the women asking. Such men live to please women’s narcissism.

As for some of the Cameroonian women in Birmingham and London, one wonders how many men they shunned, dismissed, laughed at and even “spat” at. A woman can’t be that smart, funny, educated, sassy, spunky and fun loving and not have flock of men after her.

But unfortunately, we have a small group of women (not necessarily Annie’s subjects) who, once they attain certain status, get greedy and dream Pipedreams -- waiting for Mr. Perfect to sweep them off their feet. Undoubtedly, as Cameroonians, marriage is highly rated and the unmarried women are generally frowned upon.

These are women who, at the very least, have spent an upward of five years in the West especially Germany and the UK. Unfortunately, they should admit that in most cases, women are their own worst enemies.

Most of the time, it is women who are goading fellow women to get married and have children long before their time or long before they are ready and capable. In this era, do Cameroonian women really need men, a ring, partner and the title, Mrs., to feel complete, happy and complete? Cameroonian women should stop worrying about what society thinks or feels about them in terms of their marital status.

They don’t need men to feel complete! And for those who must worry, well, they should stop searching for Mr. Perfect or Mr. Readymade. Cameroonian women should cultivate their own gardens instead of waiting to be fed; plant their own flowers instead of waiting for men to bring them roses. You are capable; you illuminate the world and give joy to humanity.