Traits that attract women to men; looks and money don't even count

Forget what you think you know about the traits attractive women look for in a man.

After talking with as many off-the-hook beautiful women as I have, the shocking truth becomes clear fast: When it comes to the qualities they’re looking for in the guys who constantly approach them, looks and money don’t even make the top 10.

That in mind, here come the top traits attractive women are really looking for in a man.

A sense of fun

This is the big one: Absolutely nothing is a bigger turn-off to attractive women than a buzz-kill. All women -- especially the most attractive ones -- are looking for men who like to have fun and do adventurous, unusual, even dangerous things. It’s instantly intriguing. It’s immediately enticing. It’s an escape from the humdrum of every day.

Women will absolutely obsess over a genuinely fun guy who flirts a little, shows them a good time, and then doesn’t call the next day. So remember: Predictability is attractive to some women -- ones looking for a husband. But when it comes to choosing their next date, fun wins out every time.

A sense of humour

It’s true; humour is an aphrodisiac to attractive women. If you can keep her laughing, everything will go your way no matter how you screw up otherwise -- all because attractive women are magnetically drawn to men who crack them up. Now, this is a tough one to explain to some guys.

Many men take this to mean being overly arrogant, which is not what I mean at all. I suggest you watch Pierce Brosnan in The Thomas Crown Affair, Clark Gable in Gone With The Wind or Tom Cruise in Top Gun, to get the idea of the kind of humour I’m talking about.

The Cocky & Funny trait is really mild overconfidence combined with an awesome sense of humour. It drives women wild.

Class

If you show just a touch of class and culture (in other words, not so much that it’s boring) attractive women will pick up on it fast. So what exactly is “just a touch” of class? Well, maybe you know something about different types of wine or foreign movies.

Do you understand something about fashion? Do you like Frank Sinatra? Maybe you enjoy exotic foods. How about opening doors for her? All of these are good for serving up just a “touch” of class without being a bore.

Dominance

OK, big fella, listen up: It’s a scientific fact that attractive women have an unconscious attraction to “dominant” men. In fact, the dominant males in some primate groups account for up to 75% of all the matings with desirable females. Same goes for humans. Attractive women love men who know what they want and go after it.

But, I’m not talking about the kind of assertiveness that makes her feel intimated or uncomfortable or oversteps her boundaries. I'm talking about the kind of assertive stance that's all about setting a goal and then going after it with passion. Women get turned on by that kind of dominance.

Romance

Most guys think it’s obvious, but here’s the real fact: Romance is powerful for creating attraction in a way that goes way beyond the whole prince-on-a-white-horse routine. Learn how to come across as the kind of man who knows how to connect with a woman emotionally and you’ll be golden.

Instead of just looking at the surface of a woman, look within her to find the beautiful parts. Use your imagination to see opportunities for poetic comments, interesting stories, fascinating history, and emotional interpretation to everything, and you’ll sweep her right off her feet (and into bed).

Sexual mastery

What do I need to say? Women love sex just as much as men do. But just like everything else in life, a great lover is not easy to find.

Women become instantly addicted to skillful lovers who know how to make them feel ecstasy and teach them new ways of feeling incredible. So read some books. Watch some “educational” movies. Do whatever it takes to get some moves down.

Generosity

This one’s your secret weapon. Attractive women can get almost anything they want in life from men, so don’t try to impress them with gifts. Impress them by showing that you spend your time thinking about the welfare of others. Make a donation, help out someone less fortunate, donate time at a soup kitchen, and invite her along to see you in action.

All of this will send her heart a-fluttering. And by the way (and much more importantly), you’ll be doing good for the world too.

Attentiveness

This one goes hand in hand with No. 9: More than gifts and compliments, attractive women want to know that you’re thinking about them. Even if you just tell a woman that you don’t like it that she’s out with another guy, she’ll love it, because it means you were thinking about her.

Remember: A beautiful woman doesn’t wear that sexy outfit by accident. If her hair is done nicely, it wasn’t a fluke. Women are very impressed and attracted to men who notice these details. Plus, it’s much more powerful than listening to her complain to get your attention. Right?

Challenge

No doubt about it: Attractive women are used to being held up on pedestals and pursued by men all day long. So, if you want to stand out from the 1,000 other guys who hit on her all day long, challenge her. If you act indifferent and aloof to beautiful women, if you make them think that you’re only calling because you’re bored, and act almost disinterested sexually, they’ll often do their very best to get your attention.

Again, this drives attractive women crazy -- it practically makes them obsess over a guy -- even though they’ll never admit it.

Intelligence

Flaunt this trait at your own peril. Intelligence can be very attractive to beautiful women, but only if used in the right way. In other words, a way that’s humble and interesting. Use your intelligence to surprise an attractive woman with off-the-wall, fun ideas, fantasies and unexpected things, and you’ll charm her.

Formal education, however, is only attractive if it’s used in this interesting way. If you’re an expert in an area that’s cool, present it from an “I know a lot about this, let me show you” perspective, and not an “I’m so smart and you’re not” angle. Also be aware that some attractive women are actually intimidated by a man with a deep education, so step carefully.